Stop making excuses.

Tuesday, December 1, 2009

Stop making excuses.

jessicachu:

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.

If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay.

Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that is not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve, then heck no you can’t “be friends.” A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend.

Don’t settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

Don’t stay because you think “it will get better.” You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

The only person you can control in the relationship is you.

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

Maintain boundaries in how a man treats you. If something bothers you, speak up

You cannot change a man’s behavior. Change comes from within.

Don’t EVER make him feel like he is more important than you are… even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him a quasi-God.

He is a man, nothing more, nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are.

Never borrow someone else’s man.

If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you.

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all of the bending. Compromise is a two way street.

You need time to heal between relationships. There is nothing cute about baggage. Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.

You should never look for someone to complete you. A relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals- look for someone complimentary, not supplementary.

Dating is fun…. even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes. When a man always knows where you are, and you’re always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.

Never move into his mother’s house.

Never co-sign for a man.

Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

I have some edits on some points. A couple things are mildly contradictory. I’ll try to do this soon. Reblogging for the useful things and for hopes that I’ll remember to add lengthy commentary.

so what you’re saying is, everything i’ve done in relationships has been wrong, everything i’m doing now is wrong, and i know not a goddamn thing about love or what loving is supposed to… be? well that’s uplifting.